Several big life decisions have been looming over my head lately. They all came to a head today making me unfocused and anxious most of the day. It started when an old employer forwarded me a job opportunity that she recommended me for. She said that I was the first person she thought of after reading the requirements. I was flattered and so grateful that she is still looking out for me, even though I have not worked for her in almost two years. Shows how much networking really can help in life.
I read about the position, what was required, what was expected, and what it paid. The position did sound like something right up my ally.
Problem number 1: I already have a job that I am not actively looking to leave. This may have been different 6 months ago, but not right now. While I still want to get into a field I love, I have unfinished business at this one. I don't actually want to leave until I accomplish what I need to there.
Problem number 2: I really want to move. The east coast has been driving me insane! I need to get away and fast! I can't think about taking a new position if I'm leaving the area, but this one sounds almost perfect for me.
These 2 main problems, also caused other ones to spin off.
What if I still haven't finished what I need to at my current job when my lease is up?
What if this new career opportunity is what I'm meant to do?
What if I can't find another opportunity that is comparable to either of these?
All of this went through my head while I was showering. I usually relax in the shower. I can't relax when freaking out. It was not a good start to the day.
Then, a very wise woman told me to flip a coin to make any and all of these big life decisions. I was at first very confused. This is a smart, successful woman who I respect professionally and personally, would she really make a life decision based on a coin flip?
Luckily she explained a bit further before I had to also rethink how I felt about her as a person. She told me that if I flip a coin, with heads being move and tails being stay and I get heads, I will know everything I need to. It's the reaction you have to the outcome that makes the decision. If the coin says move and I am disappointed then I guess I'm not ready to move.
Her theory scares me as much as elates me. I would love to just MAKE A DECISION and be done with it so I can plan accordingly. But, if I realize I'm not ready to move a brand new can of worms is opened about what to do with my life here.
Can I flip a coin to decide if I'm going to flip a coin to make this decision?
That's such a good idea-the coin-flip-leading-to-introspection-thing. As far as the other stuff, if you're not ready to leave your job, don't leave it. Other opportunities will come your way when you're ready to take them. If another six months or year, or even more, go by and you don't feel like you'll ever accomplish what you think you need to accomplish at your job, then you can start looking for something new and you'll be at peace with the decision.
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